When you realize the thought of having them in your life forever fills you with dread and you know you have to escape

When you see their name on caller ID and think “sh*t”. Usually, I know answering is going to cost me time, money, or effort.

I had a friend who began replacing me as soon as they got the chance. As soon as another person came into the picture, I was no longer important.

I was constantly asked to go out with this friend, I’ve known her for many years. We are both in the lower mid economy status with the difference of me being able to save money to allow me to go out. She invited me out knowing she yet again ‘left her wallet at home’ she brought another friend this time and just expecting. I told her I wouldn’t be friends with her then and there and walked away

When she told me that her dad had raped her and police came and gave him a "rape fine." I had recently come to the realization that she was a pathological liar, and that's what finally made me send her a friend breakup text (on my birthday), and I felt relieved.

When he and his girlfriend at the time convinced me my girlfriend died on a trip overseas. They practiced and rehearsed the “joke” to the point I was completely convinced. They didn’t stop the “joke” until after I told other friends and family what I was told by (who I thought) was my best friend at the time. He and I haven’t spoken in years but to this day he denies he did any of it.

When they consistently flake on plans, especially at the last minute. One excuse after another. I would rather a friend tell me upfront that they aren't up to it that day and reschedule rather than hear another story about this or that so they can't come.

When my female friend asked me to punch her in the face so that she could falsely accuse her boyfriend of being physically abusive. I warned her boyfriend that she (my friend) has lost the plot and they broke up. Now we aren't friends anymore.

Borrowed money several times, never returned anything. Won't get a regular job. Well everyone has different psychology and everyone has better and worse periods, so I've thought, perhaps I should tolerate that, for the sake of friendship or something. But then recently asked me to put in my will that he will inherit my house. Then, if I go on any trip, I should first give him my savings, so he can keep them safe for me, should something happen to me during travel. Yeah. It all started sounding to me too much like The Sopranos.

Friend didn't want to come over because it was raining and didn't want to drive in the rain. Lives 3 miles away. If it wasn't convenient for him he'd find an excuse. That was all I needed to know. I stopped texting at that point.

When they started posting anti-vaccine, pro-Trump sh*t, as well as borderline racist memes and crap on Facebook.

Covid flushed out a lot of mine. Their senses of entitlement, selfishness, arrogance, and self-centered view of the world were completely highlighted and I withdrew. I have little free time as it is, they aren’t deserving of it

When I saw my buddy take a vodka handle out of his freezer at like 8 am and poor himself a four-finger drink. (At 34 and for no reason other than alcoholism)

My friend was a pathological liar about the dumbest sh*t. For over a decade I just dealt with it, ignored him when he was talking his nonsense. But then he started making up stories about hooking up with this girl, extremely graphic stuff and she heard about it and he got called out. It was pretty much the end of our friendship.

A friend I had known for over a year. On my birthday he asked me over to his place To play some MTG commander and there were 4 of us there. After the second game, he asked me to fix his gaming pc. I had no idea I was going to do pc work. So my tool kit was at home a 45-minute drive away. I still manage to determine his video card was dead. We then go to a pc store and he buys a new card. So we get some food. And he wants me to pay for lunch. Because he just bought a new video card. All this on my birthday. So now I'm out $40 and 5 hours on my birthday. I later realized his invite was just so I would fix his pc for free.

When they only have you around to make fun of you and boost their own ego.

When you realize they take but don’t give

Realized that he was unwell at the time, and I was unwell at the time, and both of us were having a negative feedback loop that needed to end.

When they continuously hurt me and kept promising not to do it again but always did.

Once you get that feeling that “things aren’t equal between us,” that’s when the friendship ends for me. It usually doesn’t happen right away, but more like a series of moments that brings you to the conclusion. Friendship is supposed to be about sacrifice, and I love going out of my way to do something for someone without expecting something back, but it’s different when it becomes a pattern. And it doesn’t necessarily have to be about “doing things” for the other person, it could be anything that causes that feeling that things aren’t equal. If they don’t respect your time like you respect theirs, if they don’t treat your issues seriously like you do theirs, if they aren’t available for you like you are for them…things like that.

When I noticed that I'm always the one inviting and never the one getting invited

When she blamed me for “not being there for her” when she got dumped by her boyfriend because I went on a family vacation. The reason she was dumped? She cheated on her boyfriend during a school band trip to Disney World. Instead of hanging out with me like we had planned, she ditched me to pick up boys at the hotel pool.

When every story every moment every conversation is about them. Even when you start talking about something they interrupt with, 'you know the same thing happened to me'

When there are a series of apologies followed by no action to actually correct the behavior. Action over words, always!

Once I realized I repeatedly felt worse about myself and my life after spending time with that person. I felt more judged than accepted.